Getting Deep About The Yucky Stuff

Writing about the yucky stuff

At the moment I am feeling very tight and tense about something. I have been doing a lot of journaling on the subject. Yet it all seemed so superficial and I have been just going around in circles with it. I was feeling stuck and unfulfilled.  I felt I was holding back, not saying what the real issues were. Sometimes the practice of journal writing can be tough, and seriously yucky. Today was one of those days, and I had to write about the thoughts and feelings that I didn’t what to explore. You see my imperfections are many, including resentment. My realization was that I been feeling resentful for putting in lots of work and effort into a certain activity. Whilst the outcome of all my work was to see others reap the benefits and achieve their goals, whilst I fell further behind in my goals. However my journaling practice is able to help me voice my feelings and reframe my situation.  Now I know what the problem is I can explore the questions of how I can get more out of it, and also how can I make it more fulfilling? Another question was do I need to walk away from it? What I discovered was I want to stick with it, with the understanding that it does require me to put in a lot of hard work. However I want to find a way to get more out of it. So now I can move forward and discover ways to get more rewarding benefits from this particular work. I think in order to live deeper I have to deal with the yucky bits in my life. So sometimes in order to go deeper I need to journal about the things I don’t want to write about. It can be confronting whilst it can also be a catalyst to getting past the stuckness in life and living life more deeply.

Recently I was reading the book Journalation by Sandy Grason, this is a wonderful journaling resource for delving deep with your journaling practice. It is also where I discovered the Prompt. What don’t I want to write about today? I recommend trying this prompt it can assist with revealing some meaningful discoveries.

Prompt: What don’t I want to write about today?

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What journal prompts do you use  to write deeper?

Please leave a comment I would love to know your thoughts about the question.
Wishing you all a wonderful day!
FRAN DISHON

Autumn~Journaling To Reflect And Let Go!

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The leaves on the Lipstick Maple are changing from green to red, it is a reminder of how my own life has been changing over the past few seasons. I love Autumn, it is a refreshing time of year, that eases the transition of Summer into Winter. It is where the days slow down and the daylight hours shorten. I love its crisp invigorating cool breeze that wakes my mind up and makes me feel alert. Whilst I cannot help noticing the painted richness of red, orange and golden leaves calling me to come out into nature and play. I also enjoy hearing the Autumn music of leaves rustling under my feet, and the magic of splendid colour leaves circling in the breeze. On these days you will find me enjoying long adventure walks in nature, enjoying the cool breeze and admiring the  brilliant intense rustic colours. You will also find me curled up in my cozy armchair with my journal and morning cup of coffee, exploring  reflections about my life.  During my journaling process I notice and acknowledge the changes in my life, like Autumn acknowledges the change in the colour of the leaves. I will be willing to let go, exploring the question; what am I willing to let go of? I practice letting go of my fear, the fear of my writing not being good enough. I let it go like Autumn leaves being blown away in the breeze. It is that time of year of self-reflection, change and letting go. It is a great season to be bold with my journaling.

Autumn Journal Prompts:

Describe all the ways I have changed in the last 12 months?

What bold decisions do I need to make?

What am I willing to let go of?

What are my priorities in life?

What do I love about Autumn?

What do you like to journal about during Autumn?

I always see Autumn as a time of self reflection and letting go, Winter as a time of making space and focusing on foundations, whilst Spring is that fabulous time of bringing in the new, and Summer is time to enjoy and share life passionately. Autumn asks me to create bright bold brilliant entries in my journal, reflecting upon my changing life, and what I need to let go of.

Wishing you all a wonderful day!

FRAN DISHON

Giving Yourself Permission.

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I have noticed recently that people have been expecting me to do a lot of extra work, like make this phone call, cover this vacant position, and run this errand. So I decided to explore the idea in my journal. As I wrote my feelings onto the page my angry little girl threw a tantrum, spilling the word  no!  onto the page. It felt good to write that big no! It felt like she wanted me to be saying that big no more often.

So today’s prompt was what permission do I need to give myself to say no to requests that just are not important to me, or unreasonable of my time and energy?  As I explored this I really felt it was this false perception that people have of me. They assume that because I work part time I must:

  • Sit around the house sipping cocktails all day, and watching movies.
  • Or that I sleep all day whilst my boys are at school.
  • Or I attend mother’s group parties and champagne lunches.
  • Or that I sunbaked on the trampoline and sip on wine.
  • Or that I spend all day curled up in an armchair reading books all day.
  • Or I spend my days shopping for new clothes and having manicures.

Reality I would love to spend my days luxuriating in life, and occasionally I do. However I do have meaningful work to do, I have my paid employment, I have my volunteer work and I have my family. Then after that is my passion projects like my Journaling and Walking blog, and also the things that fill me up like Yoga, journaling, walking and reading. My life is pretty busy, and my time is valuable.

So I have decided to give myself permission to shatter other people’s ideas about my life. I am not a bored housewife who gets to spend her days having bubble baths and drinking champagne. Rather an individual who has her own important work to attend to, who gets meaning and rewards from that work. Who chooses to focus her time and energy on the things she thinks is important, and occasionally gets to enjoy a bubble bath. I also have an angry little girl in me who likes to throw tantrums and say that big no! People don’t really like my angry little girl because she really digs her heels in when she says no or simply does not do things when they are on the bottom of her priority list. I like her, because she cracks it when I am not standing up for myself.

So today my angry little girl created a permission slip that I can take out into the world, and say that big no to people that don’t respect my energy and time. I am also going to spread reality about my life and smash those perceptions that I have all this free time to sit around and attend to their demands.


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Today’s Journal Prompt is: What do you need to give yourself permission for?   A wonderful book for playful journaling is Hop, Skip, Jump,75 Ways To Playfully Manifest A Meaningful Life by Marney K. Makirdakis and she suggests creating your own beautiful permission slips. So have some fun, be a little silly, explore and find a fun solution to a serious issue. It sure beats tears!
Wishing you all a wonderful day!
FRAN DISHON

Cafe Journaling, Percolating Ideas Over Coffee.

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I absolutely love going on a date with my journal.

Journal in hand, high on adrenaline post exercise class, I find a cafe to sit and rest. Finally time to relax!  I choose to indulge in a strongly brewed coffee.  I am all alone at my table, and yet lost in the crowd.  I am so grateful that my journal is a faithful friend. As I rest and sip, the ideas come, inspired by curiosity of what is happening around me. I hear snippets of conversations and try to fill in the gaps; I wonder what they are talking about. Do they have more interesting lives than me? I people gaze, and wonder who these people are, from a stylishly dress middle aged women to a young lady dressed in grunge, the man in a suit, to the man in a ill fitting tracksuit. I wonder what their characters might be like.  So I write about what I see and hear, making up the rest, allowing my imagination to run wild. Sometimes I just wonder how does it make me feel. Then I just write about whatever thoughts need to flow out from my brain onto the page, no rules and no judgment.

Some crazy ideas come up as follows:

  1. Perhaps I could own and manage a boutique stationary shop that sells awesome journals and has regular Thursday morning coffee journal get together.
  2. Perhaps I could randomly invite people to coffee morning tea and chat, so as too meet interesting people.
  3. Perhaps I could invite the Prime Minister over for morning tea, so as I could discuss my concerns about his governments policies and the importance of nurses to society.
  4. What if I was a fairy and went around making peoples wishes come true, and sprinkling fairy dust.
  5. What if I did a coffee crawl, trying all the cafes out in there, then wrote an article on which one was best.
  6. Possibly I could spend my days drinking coffee and writing a book, may about a fairy that owns a coffee shop and sprinkles fairy dust on her customers.
  7. What if I tune into my masculine side, and try a boxing class.
  8. Perhaps I could take my journal out on a date, star gazing.
  9. Perhaps I could join or create a journal cafe.
  10. Let’s have an International Journaling day!

I often try and think of 10 ideas everyday, sometimes these ideas are a little random, and sometimes they are quite useful. Whilst at times it is hard to come up with 10 interesting ideas each day.

Going somewhere different like a cafe, a park, secret garden, side walk bench or beach helps to trigger ideas; it also gets me curious and thinking a little differently.  I find how I journal at home can be very reflective, serious and deeply personal. When I am journal in different places, I am more playful and curious about the world around me.

So try taking your journal out on a date to a new park, cafe or just some place different. Enjoy!

What interesting places do you go to journal?  Dose going somewhere different change the way you journal?

Wishing you all a wonderful day!

 FRAN DISHON

Journaling Tips To Get You Started.

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Relax and enjoy the experience of journaling. It can be like spending time with a loyal friend each day. To help you get started here are five tips:
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  1. Have a regular journaling time it helps to build disciple and routine. It also provides comfort. For me I get great joy out of doing my journaling in the mornings. By picking a regular time I find I am more consistent and more likely to journal each day.
  2. Develop a ritual.  It could be to meditate prior to journaling, or do some breathing and centring exercises. It could be burning a candle, or playing a certain type of music. It could be having a cup of tea, coffee or ice water. Having a ritual helps to define the time for  journaling.
  3. Finding a space. It may be a quiet space. It may be a cafe. It may be the park, even your car. As long as it is a space that allows you to open your mind and put it on the page. Personally I like a quiet space. Sometimes I am lazy and journal in bed, often I journal in my lounge, in a nice quiet room on a comfy lounge chair. Sometimes on a nice day I take my journal to a nice quiet spot in the park and journal there.
  4. Sometimes the words just are not happening  and there is nothing but a intimating blank page. In this case it is useful to use a prompt. A prompt can be a picture, a question or even a quote. I usually like to date my journal, write the day, and time and start of where I am journaling. If I am still stuck I will ask the question: How do I feel today?  You can use any prompt you desire, it just has to be something to kickstart the journaling process.
  5. Journaling is a process, it dose not require you to think about grammar or spelling. There is no right or wrong way to journal. There is only your own way. So enjoy it and do it because you love the experience of journaling.

Finally I would just like to say, always be kind to yourself. Journaling is an act of self-care, it is about personal reflection and expression. So be kind, do not judge your work.

Enjoy and have fun!

Wishing you all a wonderful day!

FRAN DISHON